Let me start off by saying that I have several friends who are themselves mothers, and of course, a mother of my own, and I am in no way disrespecting the time and care (and stress) of raising children. That said, some of these "mommy-centric" bumper stickers are just too much.
As we were leaving Target today, I see one (on the back of a minivan, of course!) that says, "You don't work FULL TIME until you're a mother"
. Excuse me? What a condescending assumption. I could easily put one on the back of my Jeep that says "you don't know what work is
until you go to law school", but that would be both inaccurate and inconsiderate. Seriously, who do these women think they are?? There are plenty of child free folks working very hard for many important and worthwhile things in this world. But, at least according to this bumper sticker (and the women who drives the van it was attached to), all of that is negated by the fact that they never reproduced. They never did the one thing humans have been doing for centuries
, (and before the aid of epidurals and other fancy medical advancements which make labor and childbirth easier)... and I don't want to hear any horrible labor stories, ladies. I have endometriosis
, so my pain never ends, and I don't get a shiny new reproduction of my DNA for dealing with it, either.
I understand that raising children (if you do it correctly by raising them to become compassionate, considerate adults) is hard work. Unfortunately, when I go to places like Target, the grocery store, the movies, *insert just about any place short of a bar here*, I don't see very many children who have been raised this way. People don't seem to instill any discipline, self-control or consideration into their kids anymore. If I acted the way many of these kids act when I was growing up my mother would have beat my ass. I was taught how to act in public, and if I didn't act properly I didn't get to go, period. These kids think the whole entire world is their own home, (which if their parents' housekeeping is anything like their child-rearing, is probably an absolute disaster).
And, to my last point, although I'm a barely '30-something', I do remember my childhood, and I seem to recall that most kids start school around the age of 5, so what exactly do these mothers do all day when their kids are at school? I was married, for a short while, to a man with a young daughter ~ she was 6 months when we met and 3 years old when we got divorced, so I do have some experience with this role, and I don't recall mountains of laundry or any other such nonsense which caused me to be working my fingers to the bone every day just to keep my house clean... of course, this could also be because we raised my step-daughter to clean up after herself. She knew how to clean up her room and where all her toys went. She was with me most of the time and she was a joy to have around because we taught her how to behave. No child is perfect, but you can bet she never acted the way I see other people's kids act, every single day. She had bad days or times when she was very tired and fussy, but as a responsible parent I knew her boundaries and respected them as much as life allowed. If I knew she was tired or starting to get to a point where she, as a child, could no longer control her emotions, then maybe whatever else I had to do that day got pushed into the next. It didn't happen often, but the point is that you have to be aware. You have to pay attention, both to teach them things and to learn from them yourself. It's a two way street that most parents are driving the wrong direction on, running red lights and not really parenting because, apparently, it's too much work